If you ask any ten people you come across in the next hour about the ingredients of a healthy relationship, you can be confident that the word "trust” will come up.
Why? Well, besides love, trust is what keeps any relationship; leave alone a romantic one strong and alive.
But what happens when the penultimate trust is broken in your relationship because of infidelity? Is that the end of the road for your marriage? Should you talk to your family expert about it or solve it internally?
These are some of the questions you’ll find yourself asking after a case of infidelity. The good news is that yes, it is possible to win the trust of your spouse back and repair your relationship. Read on to find out how.
- Don’t Assume Your Relationship is Doomed
After being caught, most people will often assume that their relationship is doomed. Unfortunately, nothing good ever comes from such a mindset.
Assuming your relationship is doomed because of infidelity means that you won't take any steps to save it. Even if you do, you'll be doing so with a negative mind. Therefore, the chances of succeeding are usually meager.
- Acknowledge Your Mistake
Instead of accepting their mistake, most people will often try to justify their actions. For instance, when caught cheating, some people will often try to deny it, while a good majority will usually blame it on the emotional unavailability of their spouse.
But trying to justify your infidelity will only worsen the situation, and the chances of winning the trust or even your relationship back will be quite slim.
In that light, whatever the reason behind your infidelity might be, acknowledge your mistake first. Even if you tell your family expert you cheated because your partner wasn’t there for you during a difficult time, your actions caused them pain.
Acknowledging your mistakes shows that you recognize what you did wasn’t right and that it hurt your partner. In simple words, take responsibility for your actions instead of trying to pin them on something else.
- Show You Are Sincerely Sorry
After you acknowledge your mistakes, show your partner that you are sincerely sorry for the emotional and physical pain you caused them by cheating. Do this through words and actions as well.
Call or be home when you say you’ll be. Help your partner by giving the time and space they need to vent their feelings. On top of it all, cut all ties you may have with the other man or woman.
- Accept It Will Take Time
We know this is the last thing you want to hear, but unfortunately, it is true. There is no magic pill you can offer your partner to fix things instantly. Rebuilding trust takes time and a lot of effort, especially on your partner's side.
This can be frustrating, especially if you think you've done all you can to show you are sorry, and your partner still doesn't trust you. But don't give up — understand that you hurt your spouse's feelings and try to put yourself in the same shoes. Accept that winning back the trust and repairing that relationship will take time.
- Seek Professional Help
If your partner is finding it hard to get past what you did, it would be advisable to get professional help from your family expert. Such a professional is usually licensed in psychology matters and has the skills and experience that will help you move past the affair.
Trying to rebuild trust and repair a relationship after infidelity can feel like an uphill climb, but it is possible. The best bit about it is that your relationship becomes ever stronger once it's out of the infidelity woods.
Therefore, don't assume your relationship is doomed even before you do anything to repair it. Instead, accept your mistake, show you are sorry, and talk to your family expert to try and fix it. But on top of it all, make sure you don’t do anything that may jeopardize it again.