Sweaty palms, a racing heartbeat, and the jitters - three things that are all too common when we think about asking our crush out on a date. There’s no denying that taking this first step is very scary.
But what’s scarier is watching your crush eventually date someone else and getting left thinking, what if? If that’s a position you don’t want to be in, you’re in the right place. Let’s get right down to it and talk about how to ask your crush out on a date.
First: Get Rid Of Your Fear
Why is asking your crush out on a date so scary? It’s because we fear rejection. Sure, rejection is quite painful to deal with, but it can actually be a good thing.
Getting rejected means you can stop wasting your time on someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you and start looking for someone who does. It may be a hard pill to swallow at first. However, once you realize rejection is not to be feared, you’re one step closer to asking your crush out.
Second: Learn How To Talk To People
Okay, this one may sound a bit weird, but when you want a positive response from someone, you have to be able to talk to them well. Regardless of who the person is, you want to come off as charming and approachable, i.e., someone they would like to spend time with.
We’ll be honest, this is a bit easier for extroverted individuals. This step becomes a bit tricky if you’re someone who’s a bit introverted or doesn’t socialize a lot. But, it’s not impossible! You can quickly learn how to talk to people by reading a guide to talking to girls and practicing with your friend (or even better - complete strangers).
Third: Don’t Overthink It
Now that you’ve learned not to be scared of rejection and are more comfortable talking to people, you need to get ready to talk to your crush. Being able to talk to your friends or strangers is great, but it doesn’t compare to the nervousness of talking to your crush.
So, how do you fix this? By not overthinking it. Yes, your crush is special for a reason. But, they’re not perfect, nor are they high and almighty. So, there’s no reason to put them on such a high pedestal that you’re constantly intimidated by them.
Stop overthinking the simple act of asking them out. Don’t put yourself down by thinking you’re not good enough. Instead, just take a deep breath and get ready to ask out your crush.
Fourth: Approach Your Crush
Congrats! Now you’re ready to ask your crush out on a date. How should you do this? We recommend keeping it simple and casual. Don’t plan to “spontaneously” run into your crush. Rather, approach them the next time you see them naturally. If you don’t see them often, you can also do this over the phone via calling or texting.
Regardless of whether you do it in person or over the phone, you should be well versed in the art of starting a conversation with women. This is because you want to grab their attention from the get-go. If you’re able to capture their attention and impress them from the very start, you’re likely to get a positive response.
Finally: Ask Your Crush Out
Now that you have the conversation going, it’s time to ask your crush out on a date. There’s a huge number of ways you can do this, but we recommend keeping it simple yet specific. This means don’t say something generic like “do you want to hang out?”
Instead, make it clear that you’re asking them out on a romantic date. Something along the lines of “would you like to go on a date with me?” is always a good option.
You should also have 2 or 3 date ideas ready to go. Girls like it when guys come prepared, so you can even say something like a “movie date” or a “brunch date” to let her know that you’ve thought quite a bit about the date.
If She Says No…
It’ll be a hard pill to swallow, but you have to accept it and move on. Under no circumstances should you react negatively. After all, we can’t help how we feel towards someone. Sometimes, those feelings just aren’t there.
So, if she says no, be very polite. Thank her for her time, and get ready to move on.